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As humans, we have a disposition to concern ourselves with what others think.
It hurts when we do our best to be decent people, to love and care generously (sometimes too much so), only for that to be mistaken for weakness and treated like this bad thing that makes us tricky to offload.
And of course you want to almost shout this at somebody but you don’t want to look as if you’re losing your marbles or ‘shrill’.
Some won’t go through the whole building a case rigmarole – why bother when instead, they can press the reset button?
It doesn’t mean that they’ve ‘gotten away with it’ – you cannot force feed your ex or their ‘audience’ the true version of events.
Trust that their actions will manifest themselves in their lives in some way and go about your business, probably with your teeth gritted at first.
Why would somebody who we shared a relationship with and who we believe that we were loving to, choose to spread misinformation designed to discredit us?
It makes us feel like fools (we’re not and their actions aren’t our fault either).
A good chunk of the pain felt is around that lack of control over what people think.
If they run the risk of you all talking and even comparing notes not just on your own relationship but their past ones, you (and they) will figure out what’s up. Rather than say, I talked out of my bottom a little too much and got carried away, it’s easier to generate a different ending to things.
Unfortunately they don’t learn from the experience and so lack the self-awareness needed to see their actions for what they are. They may have a bunch of sycophants who value being in the lair so much, they’ll believe anything.